AUTUMN – REGRET – Don’t block yourself

Why do we cancel our own power? What moods flood in the moment we allow ourselves to relax? Why are people so afraid of looking inside their psyches? Because of Regret, that’s why. We fear the unchangeable fate. We are afraid to tempt to gods to notice poor little us and brutalize our minimal hopes. Sorrow possesses us – suddenly we feel helpless, hate ourselves and can’t seem to ever fix anything. We are in for a bad, cold, frigid winter of discontent.

BE A CONFIDENCE WARRIOR – Lighten Your Own Load.
No one can do it but you. You have been serving as prosecutor against your own life and guess what? – that’s not fair. Fundamental Attribution Error is blaming individuals for actions that were the results of life circumstances over which they had no actual control. Look into it further, if you want to. (Sometimes we need to.) Or you can just forgive yourself and move on. After all, we’ve got the future to think of.

CHALLENGE – What would you change NOW? First, FORGIVE YOURSELF. We have to do this over and over. You were held hostage by fortune (we all were) and inevitably you went full-on Stockholm Syndrome and identified with your attackers and tried to please them. (We all did. It’s called Society.) Now you’re madder at yourself than you are at them. Forgive yourself.

DANGER – Suddenly you wake up in another part of the forest. Surprise! This wasn’t the plan but here you are. The Danger is – you’ll give up. Don’t. Or blame yourself. Don’t. Happy Accidents – serendipity – are the lifeblood of exploration. You can easily see from every fairy tale and hero’s journey you’ve ever studied that NOW we’re getting to the Good Part. By testing your muscle, you grow your muscle. If your muscle is never tested, it withers. So get ready for adventure! It’s the Warrior Way.

OPPORTUNITY – Reflect in your Training Journal. We can’t know everything. Even Jesus demonstrated surprise about the way things turned out. Be gentle as a dove, he advised, but wily as a serpent. Serpents can get out of anything. (Ask a herpetologist.) And so can you. It’s just a bigger world than we knew – both inner and outer – so let’s get mapping. I guarantee you – IT GETS BETTER. Here’s a hint: YOU ARE NOT alone in the universe.

#Haiku: Regret

Coulda
Woulda
Shoulda
Didn’t. Now you
Wish
Things
Different.
Clean slate.
Write.